As a certified sex educator and co-owner of an upscale adult toy store, Amy is passionate about providing honest, accurate information to help people enhance their sexual pleasure and well-being. Ask her anything related to sexuality, and your question may be answered and posted as one of the questions of the week. To learn more about Amy, click here.
Self-Conscious and Craving asks:
When me and my boyfriend started dating, we had sex all the time. After we had our son, things got more stressful, I didn’t take great care of myself and I’m still not back to my pre-baby figure. We hardly ever have sex and when we do its only if he is drunk. We have only had sex twice in the last year when he was sober. Now it’s to the point where I’m really self conscious about my body and its been so long that I feel awkward at the thought of having sex with him when he is sober. How can I feel more confident in myself and get back the great sex life we had. [Read Amy's Answer…]
I’m someone who almost always plays with the light on, primarily because I like to see my partner’s reaction to my touch, as well as the smile that stems from excitement upon observing the various phases of my own arousal. Also, the perfectionist within me prefers to be able to see exactly what I’m working with (an elbow in the face is usually only fun when I ask for it).
Recently, however, we decided to turn the light off…and it was HOT!
Perhaps it’s because the darkness feels so mysterious (i.e. no clue what my partner will do next!). Or maybe it just seems so different from my usual sexy scenes (mmmmm variety!). At any rate, to my fellow light dwellers, I highly suggest turning the light off from time to time and let your body fend for itself. And to those of you who prefer to keep the light off, try leaving The Darkside from time to time. Switch up your normal routine and turn on that light (candles, glowsticks and sunlight works, too). You may learn to love it
I’m 49, recently divorced, and finally feeling ready to get back out there into the dating world. There’s only one problem…I have absolutely no idea where to start! Please help!!
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Your brain is your most powerful sex organ (and sex toy). End of story