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Gina Answers: Blowjob 101

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Juicy Asks:

Blowjobs.......how do I make my husband come from a blow job?

Dear Juicy:

You are not alone in your desire to know the answer to this question.  Unfortunately, there is no magic bullet that works for every guy.   If the three most important factors in real estate are “location, location, location,” then in blow jobs, they are “communication, communication, communication.”  Your partner may be able to direct you with words and body language as long as there is trust and openness in your intimate relationship.  Patience and lack of pressure are also key.  For every ounce of pressure that either you or your partner feel about him climaxing to your oral stimulation, that goal may become ever more elusive.  On the other hand, if the focus for both of you is simply on finding out which strokes, speeds, pressures, positions and techniques feel most pleasurable to him, you will be far more likely to find that magic trick that works much of the time.  To increase the tools in your ‘tool kit’ (pun intended, of course), I would suggest checking out one of our fellatio videos online or join us for one of our future classes (bring him, too). In the meantime, I can offer a few general tips that may help:

1.     The glans, or head, of the penis is typically most sensitive.  For uncircumcised men, pulling back the foreskin during oral will increase the sensations and sensitivity.  For both circumcised and uncircumcised men, the frenulum (the area right above where the glans joins the shaft on the underside of the penis) can be quite sensitive.  Experiment with stimulating these areas and seek his feedback.
2.    If you are using a particular technique, stroke, or pressure and he’s responding positively, don’t stop or change what you are doing unless he requests that you do so.  If you feel him tensing up, he may be getting closer to climax, so continue whatever you are doing, and try just slightly increasing the pressure or speed, paying close attention to his response to that change.  If you are testing out new strokes and techniques, avoid jumping around from one to another in quick succession – this may only leave him feeling frustrated.
3.    Give him something hot to look at while you are blowing him.  Position yourself in a way that allows him a good visual of his favorite body part.  And don’t forget the eyes!  For some men, sultry eye contact that lets him know how much you are enjoying yourself while pleasuring him is all he’ll need to get to the next level.
4.    Since talking with your mouth full at the table is considered impolite, and doing so in the bed can ruin the moment (and make it difficult to be understood clearly), try to talk with your partner about how he likes to be pleased BEFORE you begin devouring him. Let him know you want to give him more pleasure than he can handle and tell him that you can only do that if he’s very clear and precise in his direction. Ask him to play a game where he direct s you very specifically as to what he likes as though it is your first time performing fellatio.  This explicit information may help both you and him tune in better to exactly what it is that gets him to that point of no return.    If he’s more comfortable with non-verbal cues, you can set up a system of non-verbal cues that he can use to let you know if he likes what you are doing, wants you to speed up or slow down, apply more or less pressure.
5.    Last but definitely not least, keep your teeth out of the game!  This tip is quite obvious to many, which is why I list it last, but in case you haven’t paid extra attention to this detail, heed it now!  Your gorgeous smile may be a huge charm for him after he’s shot his load, but while he’s packing his bags, so to speak, use those lips to conceal your pearly whites.

Good luck!

-Gina, Pure Pleasure Educator


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