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Own a vagina? Struggling with penetration? You're not alone.

Posted by Rat Queen Kyver on

Hey all! I've found myself troubleshooting the same concern for a lot of people recently - Something so common and so distressing to many that they may even seek medical treatment (when there may not even be anything wrong with them at all!) Today, I want to give voice to a common potential contributor to painful penetrative sex.As a disclaimer: Certain medical conditions, such as vaginismus, can cause painful penetration, which can vary from pain on any kind of insertion of another object no matter how small to only experiencing pain from more intense stimulation. Whatever you're dealing with, if you're...

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Our Favorite Scientist Presents: The Sexual Spectrum

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Our Favorite Scientist Presents: The Sexual Spectrum

In the recent Santa Cruz heat, it's almost felt too hot to move. I've spent many days off work holed up in my house, trying not to melt all over the room and cause a mess. For those days when you are too sweaty and icky to move, Netflix is a godsend! In my Netflix travels, I discovered that Bill Nye's latest TV project has come to life! Enter Bill Nye Saves the World. Aimed at a more varied and adult audience than his earlier project, Bill Nye Saves The World retains every bit of his old-school campiness and charm. So what's this got to do...

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In the month of April, tune up your consent skills!

Posted by Rat Queen Kyver on

Can you believe it's April already? I sure can't. But spring is here and that means everything in nature is beautifully blossoming under blue skies. One other beautiful thing about April is that it is Sexual Assault Awareness Month! You might be thinking, "That's not beautiful. That's scary! And maybe mean!" Listen, you're not alone. But I'm here to give you one really easy, universal tool to help avoid sexual assault and raise your awareness: Consent! Even if you are not someone who has experienced sexual assault first-hand, April is a great opportunity to brush up on your know-how and practice asking for...

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From Cuffs To Collar...

Posted by Jessica White Cloud on

From Cuffs To Collar...

Here's a fun little sexy-time hack for you handcuff lovers; You can turn your Submissive's cuffs into a collar. I know; what? You read that correctly! Of course, keep in mind, this little party trick only works for a certain level of handcuff - I'm talking about leather! You can turn your cuffs into a collar with three easy steps: 1) Unbuckle the cuffs 2) Place them at opposite ends of each other 3) Buckle them together into one, big, beautiful collar! Your submissive will be radiant with ecstasy, embracing your bonding ownership. Feel the silky soft leather caress your...

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3 Important Keys to Stronger Relationships

Posted by Amy Baldwin on

I'm back from week one of my Somatica Sex Coaching training, and I am left feeling pleasantly intrigued by the complexity of relationships. When I think of relationships, the words love, support, generosity, trust, passion, and intimacy come to mind. After this training, however, I am seeing deeper underlying dynamics that are important in facilitating strong foundations:  Relationships are about repair. Repair means constant growth and expansion. Together with your partner/s, or individually on the self; supportive relationships embrace change while letting go of the need for perfection. Many people refer to relationships as work. And yes, repair can feel like work. But...

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