Ari Answers: Is Pegging Normal?

Happy Asks:

Wife wants to try pegging. Is this normal?

Dear Happy:

Absolutely! Pegging is the colloquial term for when a female-bodied individual tops a male-bodied individual by using a strap-on dildo. Someone like your wife might want to try pegging for a variety of reasons. Sometimes the motivation is to play with power dynamics such as dominance and submission. Or perhaps she has heard some of the rave reviews from men who enjoy having the many nerve endings in their anus and prostate pleasurably stimulated, and she wants to show you a good time. Only your wife will be able to tell you what's motivating her, so sit down and ask away, and prepare for an eye-opening and sexy discussion.

If and when you're both ready to experiment with pegging, be sure to pick out some quality gear. Spareparts makes a variety of great harnesses, including some very cute brief styles that work as "functional lingerie". Their Joqueharness, a customer favorite, is fully adjustable, machine washable, and compatible with double ended dildos (also made in the US + comes with a 1-year warranty!). Choosing the right dildo is another adventure. You have the option to go with something lifelike such as a realistic looking dildo by Tantus, or a less phallic option like one of the appealingly designed toys from WetForHer. The choices are endless!

Once in the bedroom, you'll want to go slow and spend lots of time warming up before getting to the main event. Using lots (and I mean lots) of lube will help the two of you ease into what might just become your new favorite activity! And don't forget - as is the case for most types of sex play - communication is key!

For more information, check out "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Men".

Thanks!

-Ari